who are you?

answer the followin" rel="nofollow">ing questions usin" rel="nofollow">ing the material given. Please state the question above the answer. Suppose you asked a friend,“How did you acquire your particular identity your sentiments and preferences and attitudes?” Then suppose the friend responded, “I’m an in" rel="nofollow">individual. No one else in" rel="nofollow">influences me. I do my own thin" rel="nofollow">ing, and I select the sentiments and preferences and attitudes that suit me.” How would you explain" rel="nofollow">in to your friend what you learned in" rel="nofollow">in this chapter? CHAPTER 1 Who Are You? Suppose someone asked, “Who are you?” It would be simple enough to respond with your name. But if the person wanted to know the entire story about who you are, the question would be more difficult to answer. You’d obviously have to give the details of your height, age, and weight. You’d also have to in" rel="nofollow">include all your sentiments and preferences, even the secret ones you’ve never shared with anyone—your affection for your loved ones; your desire to please the people you associate with; your dislike of your older sister’s husband; your allegiance to your favorite beverage, brand of clothin" rel="nofollow">ing, and music. In light of what we have discussed, we should regard in" rel="nofollow">individuality not as somethin" rel="nofollow">ing we are born with but rather as somethin" rel="nofollow">ing acquired—or, more precisely, earned. Individuality begin" rel="nofollow">ins in" rel="nofollow">in the realization that it is impossi- ble to escape bein" rel="nofollow">ing in" rel="nofollow">influenced by other people and by circumstance. The essence of in" rel="nofollow">individuality is vigilance. The followin" rel="nofollow">ing guidelin" rel="nofollow">ines will help you achieve this: 1. Treat your first reaction to any person, issue, or situation as tentative. No matter how appealin" rel="nofollow">ing it may be, refuse to embrace it until you have examin" rel="nofollow">ined it. ? 2. Decide why you reacted as you did. Consider whether you borrowed the reaction from someone else—a parent or friend, perhaps, or a celebrity or fictional character on television. If possible, determin" rel="nofollow">ine what specific experiences conditioned you to react this way. ? 3. Thin" rel="nofollow">ink of other possible reactions you might have had to the person, issue, or situation. ? 4. Ask yourself whether one of the other reactions is more appropriate than your first reaction. And when you answer, resist the in" rel="nofollow">influence of your conditionin" rel="nofollow">ing. ?To ensure that you will really be an in" rel="nofollow">individual and not merely claim ? to be one, apply these guidelin" rel="nofollow">ines throughout your work in" rel="nofollow">in this book, as well as in" rel="nofollow">in your everyday life.